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Not really Earth shaking, but it was nice to see so many of these in one place, so I thought I'd share this, especially since it applies to friendships.

Enjoy!

Ox

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22 Guaranteed Ways To Destroy A Relationship

Author: Dr. Robert W. Birch Ph.D. ©

Sexologist & Adult Sexuality Educator
http://www.oralcaress.com/
oralcaress@aol. com

Used With Author Permission



Relationships are often hard to maintain, even when two people
profess undying love for each other. A major problem in a
relationship is that one or both partners continue to make the same
errors but then cannot understand why the relationship is in trouble.
It is almost as though they are determined to do things their way,
even at the risk of damaging a good thing.

In my clinical practice, I have discovered at least 22 errors in
thinking and communicating that people make, which if repeated, have
the potential of destroying a relationship. Which of the following
errors are you making?

1. Rigidly maintain that you are always right, even when you do not
have all the facts!

2. Never apologize, even when you are proven wrong beyond a shadow of
a doubt!

3. Be relentless in rubbing it in when you are proven right!

4. Dogmatically maintain that you know your partner's motives better
than he or she does!

5. Assume that your partner should understand your needs and should
respond immediately without being asked!

6. Totally ignore your partner's priorities and insist on your own!

7. Operate on the assumption that your partner's sexual need cycle is
identical to yours!

8. Add deep psychological meaning to your partner's sexual
disinterest, and take it very personally!

9. Do not ever admit hurt, but go immediately to the expression of
anger!

10. Identify your partner's character flaws and family secrets and
use them to make a point when logic fails!

11. Use guilt to manipulate, to get your own way or to punish!

12. Become proficient at catching your partner being bad, but do not
ever comment if you catch him or her being good!

13. Cut no slack, yield no ground and push your argument until your
partner walks out the door... then follow the coward!

14. Do not let go of the past, rehashing your version of it as often
as possible!

15. Cling very very tightly, claiming that you will surely die if you
are ignored!

16. If you are not a clinger, then stay emotionally/ physically
distant, and show no signs that you really care for your partner!

17. Make promises, but never keep them!

18. Be factious so you partner never knows when you are being
serious!

19. Always make excuses for your bad habits!

20. Insist that what you have to say is always more important that
what your partner is saying, so interrupt!

21. Pretend that you understand what you partner has said, even if
you have no idea of the point that was being made!

22. Act as though you do none of the above and it is your partner who
must make all the changes!

Thanks, Ox. Yes, very nice to see them in one place--or soul? Paste on bathroom mirror?


Cheers, love, joy, peace, & slainte,

Tam/Tom

Tam wrote:Thanks, Ox. Yes, very nice to see them in one place--or soul? Paste on bathroom mirror?

Bathroom mirror? Hell, I'm putting them over the headboard!

Ox

Damned! You're right--I stand corrected. How about the ceiling?

Just a thought.

Cheers, love, joy, peace, & slainte,

Tam/Tom

Tam wrote: How about the ceiling?
Tam/Tom

You're very intuitive. I see more of the ceiling than I'd like to admit.

Ox

You 2 are hilarious. I copied it 1000 times and put it everywhere....its like wallpaper